Two to tango?

I imagine many people will wonder why I even have to ask the question. Of course it takes two to tango, they answer. Especially today, in an age of real equality, husband and wife need to play their part equally. Both are responsible. But I’m not so sure. I think our assumption that ‘equal’ means ‘equal…

Seven secrets of a highly successful Christmas!

For some, Christmas might seem like a piece of cake. For others, it is more like a cold turkey. We expect a perfect Christmas that should be just the way we like it. We dream of a house filled with laughter and joy as the family opens beautifully wrapped presents under a glorious tree and…

Our ‘leaders’ are really ‘followers’

Yesterday Prime Minister David Cameron gave his first speech in a while on the importance of family. At a meeting held by the Relationships Alliance – the four biggest relationships organisations funded by government – he talked about his own family and how strong families in general mean less need for government. Mr Cameron said…

I’m a champion of marriage. And a hypocrite.

I wonder if there are any smokers in the government. Or overweight people. Or those who drink too much. Or drivers who speed. Or maybe MPs who bend the rules with their expenses. In fact anyone who falls short. Because if there are, they shouldn’t be backing policies aimed at restricting smokers, or promoting good health,…

Fiddling with ‘love nuggets’ while Rome burns

One of the biggest problems with trying to find out what works in relationships is sorting out which is chicken and which is egg. When you find something that is common to successful relationships, you still don’t really know if you’re talking about cause or correlation. So when surveys ask people both how happy couples are in their…

Happy anniversary!

I love anniversaries. And there seem to have been a flurry of them recently. I suppose it’s simply that people tend to get married in the summer months and so June/July will always produce a disproportionate number of celebrations. A few examples: We had dinner at ours this week with friends who were celebrating their…

Whirlwind romance is all about ‘me’

You know when you hear a story and think there’s something not quite right about it? Well, that’s what I thought this morning when I heard that Cheryl Cole has married her French boyfriend after just three months of meeting him. (I had much the same feeling of cringe when I heard about Channel 4’s silly idea…